• David Smith
• The Observer,
• Sunday April 27 2008
• Article history

Don’t get mad; get email. That was Tessa Martin’s way of getting over a string of broken love affairs. She didn’t cut up her ex-boyfriends’ trousers, write off their cars or seek inspiration from Glenn Close’s character in Fatal Attraction. Instead she decided that revenge is a dish best served online.

Martin’s blog is called ‘Ex-Girlfriend’s Revenge’ and has the subtitle ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’. In her first entry, she gave notice: ‘What I am … is a chick that doesn’t “let it go” and a chick that, once wronged, will not forget and will welcome an opportunity to be vindictive. This is the reason for my blog … revenge on all the bullshit I was force fed by some yanking dumb fuck … revenge for all my girlfriends that had to endure countless evenings waiting by a phone when the asshole that should be calling them is out meeting some chick that responded to his post on Match.com.’

Martin let rip in a series of posts that mercilessly mocked her exes with scabrous humour and toe-curling candour. She did not name the hapless men but published their photographs so they were easily identifiable. Under the heading, ‘This is the beast,’ she exposed a wannabe male model whose hobbies include ‘poorly trying to juggle several girls at a time’ and ‘cheating, lying, conning, deceiving’. She wrote: ‘A Gross Truth: He made me touch his butt on our first date to show me how in shape it was. I dry heaved.’

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I think they should move on and heal rather than go online but this is a new and dangerous trend using blogs and youtube to get at me is never a great idea and risks being perceived as desperation.